When we are in the worst possible place, whether that be a soul crushing job or a relationship that is ending, there is always something you can learn.
Are you in a job where you are repeatedly saying ‘do you want fries with that’, it seems hard to find a way to learn and grown. But, you can if you try hard enough. You can learn about dealing with difficult customers, that could translate into managing a diverse team ten years from now. You can learn about your own strengths and weaknesses and what you need to improve in yourself to move on to another type of employment.
If you have a relationship ending it is a fabulous time to stop and really think about what you want in a partner, and what you are willing to provide in return. What could you have done differently that could make your next relationship better, do you need to learn how to fight fairly, or be more willing to compromise. There will be many things that you can reflect on and learn and grow and change for your next relationship.
The point is that any situation that you are in is an opportunity to grow and learn and change, if you let it.
We are so quick to make assumptions, about ourselves and about other people. But, assumptions can be wrong. Sometimes very wrong.
I’ve assumed that there are many things that I couldn’t do. I have tried to blog a few times, okay to be honest, perhaps three or four solid attempts. But, I just couldn’t stick with it. I’ve been writing for this blog for over a month, it’s not longer than my ‘record’ of attempts but this one feels different.
I’m trying not to assume that this will be a failure, because there are lessons in every try. Plus, as this is anonymous I have less pressure 😉
We tend to need to learn a lesson more than once, sometimes a LOT more than once before it really sinks in. We know that we need to look after ourselves better. We say I should eat better, I should exercise regularly, I should fill in the blank.
But we don’t learn until we really really get it through our thick skulls. Well, I’m hopeful that this time I have learned the lesson of looking after myself better. But we both know that I will need some reminders going forward 😉
That is just the way things are!
Rock-bottom. You can only go up from here. There is no where to go but up. It can’t get any worse. Everything will turn around. What goes down must come up.
These are all lovely sentiments if you aren’t the one that is stuck under the rock at the rock-bottom of life. When you’re in that place under the rock at the bottom and you don’t have the will to move the rock, these sentiments are very not helpful.
If you are in that horrible place under the rock, All I will say is:
I see you under the rock, I value you as you are right now and if you need help I am here for whatever you need. Even if all you need is someone to sit beside you and hold your hand as you sit under the rock.
That place isn’t fun, but it is a place to learn the depths of self.
When was the last time you or I learned something new? Not just a twist on something we knew how to do like changing chicken for shrimp in a recipe, but something really new.
Is there a new technology that is expanding that interests you? Or do you want to learn to bake bread from scratch? Or how about go rock climbing if you never have.
Try something new. Anything new. I’m not sure what I will do, it has been a while since I truly learned something new to me. I’ll need to think on it and report back. You too? What new thing do you want to learn about but just haven’t found the motivation to yet?
Life is a very patient teacher. It will keep throwing the same lesson at us until we learn it fully and completely. This happens to all of us in many different ways. We fall back into old patterns of behaviour, whether that is reacting a certain way to someone we love or eating too many cookies at one time or lounging more than exercising.
Sometimes we need the reminder lesson that these things are not good for us to be doing, and remember that we have outgrown those old patterns for a reason.
Thanks life for the patience and the reminders 😉